
We’ve been so conditioned by documentaries like “Capturing the Friedmans” to expect well-timed bombshells that, as you watch “Must Read After My Death,” you keep waiting for at least one shoe to drop.
By the time you realize that, in fact, there are no explosive revelations – that the unbearable family dynamic that’s being shown is the point of the film – you’ve been sucked into the reality of a family living in a world of pain, much of it seemingly self-inflicted.
Director Morgan Dews took a trunkload of old Dictaphone recordings, reel-to-reel tapes, photographs and home movies and has assembled them into a collage that is both more and less than it appears. That the subject happens to be his own family – specifically, his grandparents, Allis and Charley – may make this of more interest to him than to us.
Henry David Thoreau wrote that “the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” Tolstoy added the notion that, while “happy families are all alike, every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
So here is the unhappy family of Allis and Charley and their four kids. They’re trapped together in a house in Hartford, Ct., through the 1960s, with Charley on the road in Australia four months a year – then coming home to rage at Allis about how messy the house is and how untamed the children are.
The film’s soundtrack initially consists of those Dictaphone tapes, recorded by Allis and Charley as a way of communicating while he’s on the road. They’re full of lovey-dovey “I miss you/I love you” sentiments – but there are also hints of something darker going on.
In those recordings, both Allis and Charley make oblique references that imply extramarital activity – flirtations, at a minimum, if not actual sexual dalliances. There’s a sense that we might be in for a story about swingers who walked among us.
But, no. When Dews shifts over to a tape-recorded diary that Allis made by herself over the years – particularly 1966-69 – all of that disappears. Instead, what we get is the contrast between the upbeat verbal correspondence between husband and wife while separated and the increasingly agonizing reality of daily life when Charley is at home.
Allis shares it all with her tape-recorder: Charley’s fits of rage (fueled by drinking), the pressure he puts on their four children, the way the kids react. Their oldest, a daughter named Ann, chases the wrong kind of boys and winds up married, pregnant and divorced far too young. The oldest son, Chuck, is an undiagnosed dyslexic whose poor school performance triggers his father’s anger. One son winds up institutionalized for his wild outbursts. The whole family winds up in family therapy.
It’s all illustrated by photos and home movies depicting smiling family members and friends. There’s a shocking dissonance in the difference between the face being presented to the world and the emotional torment being suffered in private.
As you listen, you can’t help but anticipate a climactic moment of bloody violence – at least on a level with, say, “The Stepfather” – but it never arrives. And that may be the truly horrifying thing about the movie: that this woman, who sounds extremely self-aware and in touch with her thoughts and feelings, can’t find a way to take control of her life and her family and get out – that she remains a victim of a husband who seems not to see the emotional damage he’s inflicting.
It’s fascinating in a weirdly vicarious way – that you can be a witness to this without having to be part of it. Is it a glimpse of a time past – or a sample of what people go through everyday? Is this family a product of its time or is this a microcosm of normal life for families today?
“Must Read After My Death” makes no brief for these people as remarkable, exceptional or unusual. That may be the most frightening thing of all.
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